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bag #12

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Remember when I said I was giving up bags that I featured two years ago in my 50 days of bags? Here’s one of them. The purse is great but again, volume. Read about it here. It’s telling that I used this on a Sunday two years ago; if I used it during the week, I would have had to carry more than one bag.

It holds a magazine folded over, and has decent interior organization.

Email me at 50favbags@gmail.com if you like this one and would like to have it.

People say: “It must be so hard getting rid of all these purses.” “How do you chose which ones to give away? You know them like they’re your children.”  Perhaps my vast collection has created an idea that I have anything other than like for these bags. I mean, yeah, I like them. I even like-like some of them. They’re not my children, though. And I don’t want to marry any of them. I don’t “LOVE” them like that. They’re material objects that I want rather than need.

This Lenten season, as always, I’m clear on the things in my life that I love, and they tend to breathe.

Yes, I know natural fabrics breathe. Ay, you sticklers.

TAKEN – thanks.

day 42

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liz claiborne pebbled leather drawstring hobo at the Cathedral Basilica of the Assumption

mother’s day is a challenge for me, as my mom has been dead for 12 years. we came home from being at my in-laws for spring break the day before easter in 2001and stopped by my folks house before going home. as soon as we left, my dad took her to the hospital and she had triple bypass two days later – the day was going to have a biopsy, we later found out. when she did have the biopsy, she was diagnosed with colon cancer that had spread to her liver. she died three months later – 3 weeks before 9.11.

having a personal death close to that event made it almost impossible for me to grieve for her. her death was unfair to me, but some of it she brought on herself. meanwhile, here was this unimaginable, horrifying event unfolding – it made my mom’s death seem like something i should just get over. my dad imploded. i still had to parent and then help my dad. i was in a suspended, sleepless state for many, many months and years. less now than then, but i still have my stretches.

time does heal wounds, but mother’s day is still tough. this year was probably my best yet in terms of tear flow. i know it’s important for my girls to be able to celebrate mother’s day. i’m just not that into it, but i’m trying to be better.

regardless, i took the opportunity to use one of my favorite bags of hers as a phone case: i remember it having a short strap at one time but i probably wore it out. i mentioned this purse in another post, and in another, i referenced her love for tooled leather. while we didn’t always have the best relationship, especially from age 13-26, she instilled in me a love of accessories. she was really telling me to love myself. she was a nurse, so she wore a lab coat most days. but when she went to church… watch out! she believed in hooking up an outfit from head to toe, leaving no jewelry, scarf or handbag left behind. the older i get, the more i understand how important it was for her to have that corner of the world for herself. actually, it was three closets, but who’s counting?

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one of my mom’s old purses

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i used to play with this clasp a LOT

fortunately, my oldest had another concert and i was able to enjoy the beautiful Cathedral Basilica of the Assumption in Northern Kentucky. what a gorgeous location. it truly helped take my mind off of missing mom so much. peace, and happy mother’s day to all the moms out there. i appreciate you.

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day 38

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Rebecca Minkoff leather and leopard print denim tote

20130508-235137.jpgthis Rebecca Minkoff tote was just lying around at the st. vincent de paul, wanting to get bought by me for $5.99. what was i supposed to do? leave it there? it’s got black pebbled leather. no contest. checked online, and it’s still for sale for $98. what!

this was a contender to go with me on either of my recent trips, because it’s packable, fashionable, and ample. but, i wanted to save it until i was in the 30s. i actually changed my outfit once i decided to war this one today.

kids with asthma get good meds, and start feeling energized and all better. moms of kids with asthma don’t get those good drugs so they are usually exhausted.

logistical nutshell: drop j off at school, work, pick n & k up from home to take n to work, go back home for the forgotten cello, take k to yagoot, pick up j, back to work, take k to cello, visit a friends’ church for spaghetti dinner, pick up k, drop k off at dad’s for pick up by d, take j to choir, stop by tj maxx, go to dad’s to help with taxes, pick up j, then home to do n’s hair for 3 hours. y’all saw the bright spot, right?

no, i’m thankful for the opportunity and ability to be there for my girls and my dad. and, myself for 20 minutes at tj maxx. no, i didn’t buy any purses!

day 37

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navy B. Makowsky tote with room for almost everything

on wednesdays, my youngest has choir downtown near where i work. it’s too short for me to justify driving home and back for her, and it’s too close to a tj maxx for me not to go visit it for a few minutes. one night, i was strolling through the purses, and i saw a b. makowsky bag on clearance for $49. $49?!? what the heck? i know my clearance rack, and i’ve NEVER seen a bag like that on clearance that cheap. some of you know what i’m talking about.

now, $49 is way more than i like to pay for a bag. but tj maxx has this facebook contest where if you find a great deal and submit it on their website, your deal can be chosen to be voted on by facebook fans to be the deal of the week. the winner gets a $50 gift card. so i thought to myself, i’ll enter this contest, and if i win, it’s like the bag is kind of free. right? it’s navy, which isn’t a huge part of my wardrobe. i don’t usually like chains, but i liked the modern look of the links on this bag. after walking around for a half an hour talking myself into it i went for it. i decided that if i didn’t win, i had time to return it.

well, i won the contest. it was very exciting! watching the fb people – choosing which deal they liked best, reading the comments – was thrilling. i watched all weekend and by monday, i knew i had that $50 gift card. i felt great! it was very affirming. i have a not-so-secret passion for fashion and the industry. i have no idea how i can participate but i would love to try.

today the bag was loaded up for a busy day that included the doctor’s office with my oldest, who had a severe asthma attack. fortunately, she’s feeling a little better. thank you, God, for great physicians. it ended with my youngest’s band concert. those kids were amazing. it’s an easy day for counting my many, many blessings. i can’t do that enough. peace.

 

day 36

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day 36 – fossil patterned bag with leather trim

rippin’ and runnin’ is what was up today. mondays are often like that, but with ap exams and a graduating senior in the mix it got a little hairy. so i did what many a mom would do: dropped the middle one off at cello and went to starbucks, got a tall mocha, and went to the park with the youngest to hit the swing set .

this purse is a favorite that i intentionally put off until the latter part of the 50 days to spread the love. it’s a fossil, fabric with leather trim. yes, it came from my favorite goodwill for $8. or maybe $12, i can’t remember. either way, i really have enjoyed this bag because it’s very well organized. it has three exterior pockets – one big pouch in the back, a zippered pocket and flap pouch in front; and three interior pockets. it’s not too cavernous that i lose my giant key ring in the bottom.

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closeup of front pocket and handles

we’re fortunate that the street where my daughter takes cello lessons has a park, so on nice days my sweet baby loves to swing. i love to swing too, but sometimes i’m working or reading while she swings. today i joined her, and i’m really glad i did. swinging gives me such a great feeling. there’s nothing like the wind rushing through my whole person – it takes me right back to being 6 again.

she begged me to take a picture of the purse on her lap like i did her sister yesterday. here’s a closeup of the front pockets and handles held by one of the sweetest hands on the planet. thank you, God, for my girls. i don’t think about what i would do without them.

day 35

vintage tooled leather bag - probably from 1940s

vintage tooled leather bag – probably from 1940s

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close-up of clasp and tooling

my mom has been on my mind a lot lately. i mentioned in a previous post how much her love of accessories has influenced me. she had some amazing bags, i can’t BELIEVE i was not into fashion at the time of her death, and can’t remember what happened to many of her bags. i probably gave them away; i know i gave some to good friends of hers.

she would have really appreciated this purse. i bought it because when i saw it, i was immediately transported to her closet, which held similar purses. she loved tooled leather. she would use a purse until the edges began to unravel. i checked this bag carefully for any signs of wear, and other than slight wear in the strap from where the buckle was obviously buckled for years, i can’t find any.

2013-05-06 00.14.56what i did find were these tickets. while i waited for my daughter to sing in her final concert with bel canto, i decided to take a picture of the purse at the venue. i started looking for the manufacturer – checking pockets, zipping and unzipping zippers, and found these tickets deep in the interior zippered pockets. they’re for the Frozen Niagara at Mammoth Cave National Park. you can see the price of the tour was $1, today the tour costs $10. to add to the mystery, there’s no date on the tickets. so i checked some inflation rates and value of a dollar along with some images of similar purses online to guesstimate the age of the bag, somewhere in the 1940s – 1950s. cool!

so i feel good about owning a bit of beautiful history. seriously, every bit of the bag that is visible is tooled. i love a mystery, so finding the tickets was exciting for me and my middle daughter, upon whose lap the bag is sitting. and i have great memories of Frances Ann. i happily paid $20 for this bag at my favorite goodwill. thank you to whomever enjoyed it long ago and took such good care of it. until today, i’ve enjoyed looking at it hanging on a hook on the door of my closet. it’s a reminder of a beautiful person gone too soon, yet still with me.

day 31

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the sak black pebbled leather convertible tote, overlooking the athletic field

some people refer to my alma mater as a cult. those people are usually haters who did not attend Walnut Hills High School, one of the best high schools in the country. it’s one of the reasons my east coast husband will live in cincinnati – so his kids can attend. after running into a high school friend of mine at his work in new jersey 20 years ago, he started to understand that Walnut is special.

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the sak purse with the WHHS flying pig

well, we have a daughter who is a senior, and she’s about to graduate from this amazing institution. i’m so proud of her. so today, i carried the bag she chose for me last weekend that i rejected, and took these photos at her senior ensemble concert held earlier this evening. (bag: goodwill, $8) this is a new wing of the school – when i attended, it was known as the annex – language classes, honors, and lest i forget – typing class. it’s so beautiful now, and i’m happy that these kids have a beautiful school in which to learn and hang out with friends.

high school was a wonderful time of my life. i did honors and choir, yet i wasn’t a total nerd. i had a great 6 years. i have no desire to go back, or have doovers. i’m just so thankful and glad my kids are there. this year was a fun year with one as a senior and one as an effie – that’s 7th grader to you civilians. so i’ve got 5 more years to embarrass the crap out of her! whoooooooooo! go Walnut!